When my wife and I were prospected into Amway

a friend of ours tried to get us to see the mistake we were making. He gave us a binder full of articles and price comparisons, including an excerpt from Paul Butterfield’s book, “Amway: The Cult Of Free Enterprise.”

None of that worked. We were being manipulated by an expertly devised system that would use our friend to get us involved.

Telling someone that he/she is wrong about MLM is a tactic that is easily dismissed and will probably backfire.

I wish I could enlarge that sentence onto a billboard:

**Telling someone that he/she is wrong about MLM is a tactic that is easily dismissed and will probably backfire.**

The only method I’ve found to intervene that has any realistic hope of working is to ask questions. Learn as much as you can about MLM and about the particular company, and then ask “I don’t understand…”-type questions. If you can engage their critical thinking skills, you might have a chance. If you simply appeal to their emotions, you lose.

You can’t tell them they’re wrong; they have to find that out for themselves. They want to believe they made the right choice by getting involved, and they want to trust the people who recruited them. So you are fighting a battle of trust. And you don’t have the experience against their recruiting systems to win.

So the only path available to you is to get THEM thinking. “How long do they say it will take to get to the first achievement level? What happens if you don’t get there by the proscribed date? Do they just tell you to keep on going, even if you are losing money? All businesses (that are really businesses) have a ‘drop dead’ date. Were you encouraged to set one?”

“What about training? On my job, I’ve been given all the training I need at the company’s expense? I don’t understand why they have to have so much training, at YOUR expense.”

“Did the leaders claim that they don’t make any money unless YOU make money? What about all those training materials? Do they disclose how much profit they make from that? Or do they deny making anything?”

I hope you can see by now that these are the kinds of questions to which they may offer snap answers, but they’ll end up thinking about them more deeply in their own time.

Then all you can do is hope, and maybe pray.

Keep reading. Keep learning. Don’t give up on them. And most important of all, be there for them when they discover the truth about MLM and abandon it. Don’t criticize them for ignoring you. Don’t tell them “I told you so.” Just be grateful when they come out of it.
They’re going to need love and support in order to come to terms with what is happening to them. You can offer that, if you don’t burn the bridge.